I love communication. It makes all the difference in the world. When I can tell My Man "I want to have a scene with you, but I want the spanks to be super play, and not hard." and then we don't talk about it again and I get scared. Then he gives just enough and I feel so loved and cared for.
It's the little things. :-p
In other news it's been snowing non stop for like 7 hours, light stuff so we have maybe half a foot, but it's pretty. My brother (our housemate) is gone for the weekend so we have the heaters blasting and are having a lovely relaxing clothes optional snow day. :)