This is a debate My Man and I have had our whole marriage, but it came up again a few nights ago, and he suggested I ask the blog world.
Ladies out there - I know there ARE women out there who love to give blowjobs - it makes you happy, excited, fulfilled, whatever. And **I** know there ARE women out there like me (although My Man seriously thinks they are much fewer than I think) who are grossed out and disgusted by it. (I perform it for him, but I REALLY don't like it, I gag everytime, I HATE the thought of the body part he pees out of being in my mouth)
But my contention is that I believe MOST women do it because they love their spouse and want him to be happy and sexually satisfied, but it's not like when you hear him grunt "Give me a blow job" or trying to stick his penis in your face or something other indicator that he wants "service" that you're overjoyed and excited about it.
Am I just off the mark?
Um yes. And no. I actually will look at my man and desire to have it shoved in my throat. So, I am overjoyed and excited about it. So yes, there you are off the mark.
ReplyDeleteHOWEVER, I only feel that way with him - he has always been such a generous lover with me that it is easy to give and desire to give so much. But there is literally no other man (okay there was one a long time ago, but he is best not brought up) that makes me feel this delighted about the activity. It was very much a chore. So in that regard, you are totally on the mark.
Interestingly enough, H is the only man that made me ever think I would want children also. So, it could just be his Italian virility that makes it all so yummy?
Haahaha.... Kitty you made me laugh!! I am having visions of Gaston (even though he was French not Italian) bursting in and all of the girls fainting at his manliness. ;-)
DeleteI actually do not hate it as much as I used to, but unless he is like in the shower I don't LIKE it. In the shower or just out of the shower I can get into it a bit before I gag. ;-)
sorry sweetheart, me and you, totally different universe. i like it. the feel, the power, the reactions...
ReplyDeleteand let me just say, it has to belong to a man who is as obsessed about hygiene as i am. eventually they all learn that they need to smell awesome and fresh if i'm gonna be anywhere near there, but they learn.
i do admit it becomes a bother when the fella seems disinterested in it and would prefer to get on to other business. then i feel like i'm not doing a good enough job (which is utter nonsense) or that he's not appreciating it anyway so i should skip it.
why are you gagging? the thought of it? the smell? it's too deep in? what i mean is, is it psychological or physiological?
Hullo! Haha - I think I would feel that way if there wasn't discharge or knowing that it's a "dirty body part". Every other part of his body and during intercourse when I can get him to moan or be in super pleasure it fills me with joy! Even when I am giving oral and he is super happy it makes me feel happy, but then there is pre-cum. He can't help it - he doesn't even know he is doing it, but the second it touches my tongue I start to gag. :(
DeleteHe used to get me to go "deeper", but then I would actually throw up all over everything, so he doesnt try that anymore. ;-)
He is VERY good at expressing his pleasure and love... now he doesnt view it like me doing him a favor like I do. He isn't as grateful as *I* feel like he should be, because to me it is the very edges of my abilities and I would be happy to never see his penis let alone touch it let alone put it into my mouth, but yeah..
I think it is more physical he think it's more psychological. It's the taste (and smell if he hasnt JUST bathed) to me, but he thinks it's because I view private parts as dirty. Doesn't everyone? All growing up it was "stop touching your vagina/penis/butt it's dirty." Dirty because there is poo and pee, not dirty like "evil".
To answer the question - no, I don't view our parts as dirty.. unless we've been working/playing hard and sweating all day, then all the parts are dirty. :)
DeleteOh I absolutely adore doing it 90% of the time.(Hey no one enjoys doing everything all the time.) How he grows and feels in my mouth, how I feel, how I know I'm making him feel, and as fondles said above, the power. I think one can almost get drunk on the power of giving a blowjob because of what it does to the men. I wrote two things quite a while ago on why it's, well kind of awesome
ReplyDeletehttp://musingsfrombelow.tumblr.com/post/21380329006/oh-silly-master-i-know-you-think-youre-in
http://musingsfrombelow.tumblr.com/post/21717085560/a-continuation-of-the-who-is-really-in-charge
Sometimes our mouths get us into trouble, other times they hold all the power.
I will SO read those later!! We have to leave for church in a bit and I am debating waking My Man up. lol. :)
DeleteYour last sentence made me laugh out loud :)
Sorry I was typing fast and was not thinking - thank you SO much for visiting my blog! :) I really will read your postings later - thank you!! :D
DeleteI did have time, so I read... Oh My Goodness!! *laugh* I had to scroll past the vid/pics so fast. **gag** (I hate penises :))
DeleteYou write very well and have a passion for it that I am SURE your guy benefits from greatly. Yay!! :)
Hi Young Lady,
ReplyDeleteI enjoy performing this act on my husband, and it gives him a lot of pleasure. He is always squeaky clean, and if I happen to gag it's simply a physical reflex and doesn't mean I'm not having fun too. Swallowing is a natural conclusion.
Hugs,
Hermione
Thanks.
DeleteI guess I really am a minority here. **grumble** ;-)
We can't even get to the "swallowing" because A: I gag and B: He needs things "just right" in order to finish and somehow with my mouth I cannot maintain the right rhythym? :-p
We are both needy people. :-p
Ummm, don't throw things at me?
ReplyDeleteI used to hate it and feel like it was a chore. Since entering the realm of D/s, I feel very differently about it. I would rather give then receive, and I have to admit--I rather love doing it. Sometimes I literally drool for it lol. Though I do have a fairly active gag reflex...
Sorry to say, I do think that there is a huge psychological component, just because of the different ways I have felt about it in my own life and the physical reactions I have.
haha - thanks Lil. My Man told me that he read this comment before I did and he thinks you make good points. ;-)
DeleteI am late, but.. I love love love love love giving head / blow jobs / face fucking. :) I write about it quite extensively. Cleanliness is super important - AND... I didn't used to love it so much. It was just a thing I did.
ReplyDeleteBut I decided one day that I was going to do it, and do it often, and LIKE it - because he likes it better if I like it.
I also like the gagging. :) (the physical part where my body tries to reject but I overcome by shoving myself onto him harder... mmm, yes)