I am a 31 year old wife in her 5th year of marriage trying to figure out what submission really looks like... no, not for you, not for the world, what it looks like for me and MY man
I feel like for us it was a combination of lack of sleep and bad communication. We went to sleep with my head on his chest (well we did this until right before I was going to sleep I can't sleep that way ;-)), so I think we had pretty much made up. :)
What had happened in a short version was that he told me earlier in the day he was exausted and didn't wanna have sex that night. Then in the night gave me a fun spanking (one I like - yay!), then played with me "down there", I asked if I could buzz (thinking he still didn't wanna have sex, and thinking I was giving him the chance to say "I want to have sex.") He said sure and I started to buzz... *I* thought I was giving the signal "I am turning it off for a second to give myself a chance to rest between spasms" and he read it as "She is taking a break it's a good time to rip the vibrator out of her hands and encourage her to play with my penis." **enter not impressed face** It just went downhill from there ending with a long conversation where I felt like he was being a whiny baby and he felt like I was being a selfish bitch. I think today will be better... at least I hope so. :)
Haha, Kitty! I agree. There was a reason I posted here instead of acting it out... and said I WANT to not I am GOING to. ;-)There have been 2 times in our relationship where I actually spit on him (and many times when the gleam was in my eyes...until I saw the gleam in HIS eyes :)) and both times ended sadly for me. :-p
Good question.
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We are all suffering from this thing regularly.
Haha, Thanks Bas!
DeleteI feel like for us it was a combination of lack of sleep and bad communication. We went to sleep with my head on his chest (well we did this until right before I was going to sleep I can't sleep that way ;-)), so I think we had pretty much made up. :)
What had happened in a short version was that he told me earlier in the day he was exausted and didn't wanna have sex that night. Then in the night gave me a fun spanking (one I like - yay!), then played with me "down there", I asked if I could buzz (thinking he still didn't wanna have sex, and thinking I was giving him the chance to say "I want to have sex.") He said sure and I started to buzz... *I* thought I was giving the signal "I am turning it off for a second to give myself a chance to rest between spasms" and he read it as "She is taking a break it's a good time to rip the vibrator out of her hands and encourage her to play with my penis." **enter not impressed face** It just went downhill from there ending with a long conversation where I felt like he was being a whiny baby and he felt like I was being a selfish bitch. I think today will be better... at least I hope so. :)
Probably not the best idea. (Unless spitting is in your kink? :))
ReplyDeleteBut yeah, I know what you mean.
Haha, Kitty! I agree. There was a reason I posted here instead of acting it out... and said I WANT to not I am GOING to. ;-)There have been 2 times in our relationship where I actually spit on him (and many times when the gleam was in my eyes...until I saw the gleam in HIS eyes :)) and both times ended sadly for me. :-p
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