Please pray for us. We are meeting with out pastor today, and I know he doesn't entirely approve of our D/s DD stuff, but he listened for WEEKS and now we need to give him a chance to talk. Please pray I wouldn't be hurt or defensive. Up until this point he has NEVER made us feel dirty or "bad" and I know anything he says is because he loves us. Please also pray that we wouldn't feel "guilty" I know that seems arrogant to go in saying "I know we arent wrong.", but... I am easily swayed by people's opinions of me, and I KNOW we aren't wrong here. :-p
His concerns thus far have been
1. He thinks we are replacing one thing with another as far as my cutting. And this is true to a certain extent - spanking helps me not spiral out of control, and the pain is only a part of it.
2. He thinks we are misunderstanding the Bible's "Wives submit to your husbands". Which I don't think is true because we do NOT think this is the right path for everyone or the "RIGHT" of any many to do to a woman. We just think it's right for us, and it is A way I can live our my submission to my husband.
3. I don't think he thinks it's "wrong" sexually, his view is what a man and woman do in their own bedroom for sexual pleasure is their own business, but I think he thinks it's unhealthy. He keeps saying that "bdsm originated in porn and porn is bad, so bdsm is bad"...and we just don't think it originate in porn? And we think the desires would be there even if someone hadn't shown us?
But, I may be judging him, maybe in the month or so since we have talked his thoughts have changed. I knows ours have. We are moving more into the DD light for "real life" and that wasn't as true a month ago. Actually, that would probably concern him MORE since we were trying to say it was just "in the bedroom" a month ago... and failing.
Why we told him is a semi separate issue that I will share some day. But not TOday.
Love y'all!!
my prayers are with you today sweetness, in the end you need to do what's right for both of you. And if your husband is on board and has given you his support then you already have your answer.
ReplyDeleteThanks dear - it went really really well and we didn't feel badly at all! He actually didn't even REALLY have anything negative to say and seemed happy that we are finding more clarity. He still doesn't think pain has any place in a healthy marriage, but we agreed to disagree. We are meeting again in 2 weeks. :)
Deleteoh ignore my question on the pastor's verdict on you other post. i didn't see the reply on here.
DeleteI had desires and "funny tingly" reactions to D/s situations long, long before I ever saw porn. (5-6 years old)
ReplyDeleteHow can something "originate" in porn anyway? The idea has to come from somewhere before it finds its way into porn.
Anyway, I hope your meeting goes well. :)
Haha - MEeee tooo!! I was reading parenting books just to find the spanking stories at *8* and felt dirty doing it even though I didnt even know what sex was til 14. :)
DeleteThanks!!!
I must admit that I was sondering why you told him. But you managed to wrap that up at the end, so I hope that it went well.
ReplyDeleteI will share that story at a later date... it is near the beginning of this blog I think, but I will write up a better version at some point. :)
DeleteThanks, it really did!!