Please pray for us. We are meeting with out pastor today, and I know he doesn't entirely approve of our D/s DD stuff, but he listened for WEEKS and now we need to give him a chance to talk. Please pray I wouldn't be hurt or defensive. Up until this point he has NEVER made us feel dirty or "bad" and I know anything he says is because he loves us. Please also pray that we wouldn't feel "guilty" I know that seems arrogant to go in saying "I know we arent wrong.", but... I am easily swayed by people's opinions of me, and I KNOW we aren't wrong here. :-p
His concerns thus far have been
1. He thinks we are replacing one thing with another as far as my cutting. And this is true to a certain extent - spanking helps me not spiral out of control, and the pain is only a part of it.
2. He thinks we are misunderstanding the Bible's "Wives submit to your husbands". Which I don't think is true because we do NOT think this is the right path for everyone or the "RIGHT" of any many to do to a woman. We just think it's right for us, and it is A way I can live our my submission to my husband.
3. I don't think he thinks it's "wrong" sexually, his view is what a man and woman do in their own bedroom for sexual pleasure is their own business, but I think he thinks it's unhealthy. He keeps saying that "bdsm originated in porn and porn is bad, so bdsm is bad"...and we just don't think it originate in porn? And we think the desires would be there even if someone hadn't shown us?
But, I may be judging him, maybe in the month or so since we have talked his thoughts have changed. I knows ours have. We are moving more into the DD light for "real life" and that wasn't as true a month ago. Actually, that would probably concern him MORE since we were trying to say it was just "in the bedroom" a month ago... and failing.
Why we told him is a semi separate issue that I will share some day. But not TOday.